Turn the Other Cheek

Why It Was Never About Being a Doormat

What You Were Told It Meant

Turn the other cheek. We have all heard it, and most of us were taught the same thing it means. Take it. Whatever they do to you, swallow it, stay quiet, do not push back. It has been used to tell battered women to stay, to tell oppressed people to wait, to tell anybody being stepped on that holiness looks like lying still and taking it.

For a lot of us, especially those whose grandparents were told to turn the other cheek while the world did terrible things to them, that reading is not just confusing. It is a wound. It made Jesus sound like he was standing with the people doing the stepping, telling the ones on the ground to be still and take a little more.

If that is the Jesus you were handed, no wonder some folks walked away. Who wants to follow a Savior who tells the bullied to enjoy it? But hold on, because that may not be the Jesus of the text at all. It may be a Jesus who was handed to you by people who needed you calm.

Here is the thing that should have tipped us off a long time ago. The man who said turn the other cheek spent his whole life resisting evil. He flipped tables in the temple. He called the powerful snakes to their faces. He did not lie down for anybody. So if his words seem to say "be a doormat," maybe the words got handled somewhere along the way. Let us go read them in the world they were actually spoken to.

What the Text Actually Says

Start with the line right before. "Do not resist an evil person." For centuries that got read as "do not resist evil at all," which is a strange thing to pin on a man who resisted evil constantly. The scholar Walter Wink went back to the original word and found something sharper. The word translated "resist" was a fighting word, the kind used for armies meeting violence with violence on a battlefield. So Jesus is not saying do not resist. He is saying do not answer violence with more violence of the same kind. There is a difference, and that difference is the whole sermon.

Now the slap. In that world you did not strike an equal with the back of your hand. A backhand was how a master corrected a slave, how a Roman put a Jew in his place, how a man reminded somebody beneath him to stay beneath him. It was not meant to injure. It was meant to shame. The records of the time even set a heavier fine for backhanding a person than for striking them open-handed, because the insult was the whole point. And notice Jesus says the right cheek. A right-handed man, and that culture treated almost everyone as right-handed, can only reach your right cheek one way. With the back of his hand.

So watch what turning the other cheek actually does. If you turn and offer the left cheek, he cannot backhand you anymore. The angle is gone. The only way to hit the left cheek is with a fist or an open palm, and in that culture you struck a man that way only if you considered him your equal. So now he is stuck. He can stop, or he can hit you in a way that admits you are his equal, which is the last thing he wanted to say. You have not thrown a punch. You have not run. You have quietly made it impossible for him to treat you as less than human, and you have dared him to see you straight. That is not surrender. That is defiance with your dignity still standing.

Jesus runs the same play twice more. First the courts. If a man sues you for your coat, Jesus says give him your undergarment too. Understand what that means. The poorest people pawned their outer cloak to cover a debt, and the law actually required you to give a poor man's cloak back by nightfall, because it was all he had to sleep under (Exodus 22:26-27). So picture a poor man hauled into court over a debt, stripping all the way down and handing it over, walking out of there naked in front of everyone. In that culture the shame of nakedness fell on the people looking, not on the one stripped bare. In one move he exposes the whole cruel system that would strip a poor man to nothing. He has obeyed to the point of absurdity and made the injustice impossible to look away from.

Then the road. A Roman soldier could legally force a civilian in an occupied land to carry his gear, but only for one mile. That is the same practice at work when soldiers grabbed Simon of Cyrene to carry the cross. One mile, not a step more, or the soldier himself was in violation. So when Jesus says go a second mile, picture the soldier at the mile marker reaching to take his pack back and the man saying no, I have got it, I will carry it on a while. Now the soldier is the one in trouble, scrambling, because his own law is being broken on his behalf by the man he was lording over. The power just flipped, and not a single fist was raised.

If this sounds familiar, it should. This is the root of what Gandhi did to an empire and what Dr. King and the people of the movement did in the streets of this country. They did not hit back. They also did not bow. They put their bodies and their dignity in the way of the injustice until the whole world had to look at it. That was not weakness dressed up as faith. That was the third way of Jesus, lived out loud.

So how do you catch a reading like this for yourself? You ask what the first listeners already knew that you do not. What was a backhand? What was a cloak worth to a poor man? What could a soldier legally make you do? A decent study Bible footnote, a free commentary online, a few minutes of honest digging, and the verse opens up. The custom you were never taught is usually the missing key.

Honest note, because reading for yourself means hearing the pushback too. Not every scholar buys every detail of this reading, and some think Wink makes the moves a little too clever. Fair enough, hold the details loosely. But you do not need every detail to see the main thing, and the main thing is solid as stone. "Turn the other cheek" was never a command to be a doormat. It was a way to resist without becoming the very thing you are resisting.

What This Means for Where You Are

He did not say lie down. He said stand there in such a way that they cannot make you small.

Think about who taught you the doormat version, and go easy on most of them. A lot of them were passing on what they were handed, the same soft reading that had been preached for generations. Some of them meant to teach you patience and humility, which are real and good and not to be thrown away. The trouble is that the same reading, handed to a person being abused or a people being held down, does real harm. And somewhere back in the line, a hand was glad to keep it soft, because quiet people are easy to rule. Part of reading for yourself is learning to tell the difference between the grandmother who meant well and the system that profited from her teaching it.

And here is the good news under all of it. The real teaching is stronger than the one you were given, not weaker. Jesus did not hand the powerless a script for staying down. He handed them a way to stand up that the powerful could not punish, a way that kept their soul clean while it exposed the wrong. That is the Word that fed the people who marched and sang and would not hit back and would not bow down either. The doormat reading was never God's plan. The third way was. The Bible did not fail the oppressed. A bent reading of it did, and the real thing underneath was a weapon for their dignity the whole time.

So when somebody hands you a verse that just happens to tell you to stay small and stay quiet, slow down and ask whose hand that reading serves. Then go back to the text, in its own time and its own place, and find out what it actually asked of people. Most of the time, the real Jesus is braver than the one you were sold. Go meet him for yourself.

Reflect & Respond

• What were you taught "turn the other cheek" meant? Who taught you, and what do you think they were trying to pass on?

  
  

• What changes when you see the backhand as an insult about status rather than a punch? How does turning the cheek read now?

  
  

• Where have you seen "be humble" or "turn the other cheek" used to keep people down? Where have you seen it used the way Jesus meant it?

  
  

• Is there a place in your own life where the brave move is not hitting back and not lying down, but a third way? What would that look like?

Sources

[1] Walter Wink, Jesus and Nonviolence: A Third Way (Minneapolis: Fortress Press, 2003). On the backhand, the cloak, and the second mile as nonviolent resistance.

[2] Walter Wink, "Jesus' Third Way," full text of the teaching. https://www.baptist.org.uk/Publisher/File.aspx?ID=162188

[3] "How Walter Wink Confronted Violence," Waging Nonviolence, on the word translated "resist." https://wagingnonviolence.org/2012/05/how-walter-wink-confronted-violence/

[4] David Guzik, Enduring Word Commentary on Matthew 5. https://enduringword.com/bible-commentary/matthew-5/

[5] "On Walter Wink's Jesus and Nonviolence: A Third Way," Political Theology Network, a critical response. https://politicaltheology.com/on-walter-winks-jesus-and-nonviolence-a-third-way/

[6] The Holy Bible, New International Version (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2011), Matthew 5:38-41; Exodus 22:26-27; Matthew 27:32; Luke 6:27-31. https://www.biblegateway.com

Do not stop trusting the Bible. Trust it enough to move the hand. Somebody is almost always reaching in. A translator. A custom you never learned. A person with something to gain. Sometimes the hand means well. Sometimes it does not. Either way, it is not the text.

Read the Word in the time and the people it was written to. Notice where a hand, and not God, changed what you read. Then pray for the meaning the Lord put there, not the one you were handed. That is faithful wrestling with the Word.

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